A checklist keeps the basics from being forgotten when the moment feels vulnerable.
Use it as a grounding tool, not a rigid script.
Consent
Ask what is welcome, what is off-limits, and what words mean pause or stop.
Make it clear that changing her mind is allowed at any point.
Setup
Prepare warmth, towels, oil, privacy, music, and enough time. Remove phones and interruptions.
Use clean hands, trimmed nails, and simple fragrance-free products.
Aftercare
Have water ready. Offer quiet, warmth, and no pressure to discuss everything immediately.
The close is part of the care.
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